I'm still in shock.
Do pregnant people feel like this too when they first find out?
Wednesday we had a conference call with the adoption agency to walk us through some next steps and answer some of our questions. And this week we get to speak to our son's biological mother.
She is anxious to talk to us. We feel the same.
The agency told us that she picked us a few weeks ago, but they couldn't tell us that week due to not having all the paperwork in order. As they worked on it, she called the agency every day to ask if they had relayed the news, wanting to know if we were excited about adopting her son.
That just about melted my heart. She was excited and anxious to know if we were happy that she picked us! I told the agency to tell her that we cried and yelled and hugged with joy - of course we are excited!
I'm so nervous to talk to her. I will most likely cry and blubber and stammer and tell her something too personal like that I already love her son, because I have prayed for him for years. I might tell her I love her too for her choosing us.
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| I mean look at us! We ARE SO EXCITED! |
I have to say this... there is a chance that this won't work out, that she could still choose to parent her child before he is born. I believe, based on everything that we've been told so far, that she has made up her mind 100% to place her child for adoption and with us as the family. I believe that God has His best in mind for us, and for this child. I'm choosing to trust in Him, the process and my agency.
I am choosing TRUST too. And joy. And love. And unbelievable excitement for the three of you!!! Praying every day. Love you Kara!
ReplyDeleteOMG! I am so happy for you and Matt!!! How exciting!!!! I cannot wait till September!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
ReplyDeleteIve been following your blog for a little while! SO excited for you guys! That is truly the BEST phone call minus the one where she goes into labor that you will EVER get! :) We met our son's birthmom about 4 weeks before he was born. It was an awesome experience and helped ease our minds even more than she picked us and she was certain in her decision. Our social worker was with us for the meeting and that helped with the conversation a ton. We talked baby names, things we liked to do, eat, etc. Just normal getting to know you things. It will go great! :) If you ever want to email me Id be willing to share anything about our experience. Our son is 13 months old now and we have an open adoption with his birthmom. (april dot lorvick at gmail dot com).
ReplyDeleteThat is EXACTLY how pregnant people feel. You have been pregnant in your heart for so long, dear one, and now WE HAVE A DUE DATE!!! My heart is overflowing with joy for you!!!
ReplyDeleteYES pregnant people feel that way too-- especially after infertility and the like. But in a way what you're feeling is likely more intense-- not only did God choose you for her son, she chose you too! You are such special people, all four of you. And in a way, after following your journey for this short time, I feel like we're all a little bit "pregnant" with you, because our community is about to grow by one amazing little boy. We love him and continue to pray with you and for him and his birth mother. I am so excited for you.
ReplyDeleteI bought my future nephew footed PJ's today. They read, "Bananas for Mommy" which I thought was appropriate since his mommy loves the word "bananas" :)
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to hug him, cry over him, tell him how he is a part of me because he is a part of you, Kara and Matt. OOOhhh I just can't WAIT!!
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i agree. totally normal. you'll be in shock for months. lorean and i agreed it took about 3 weeks into baby being HERE with us before it finally sank in. but i love what "turtle?" said... we're all a little pregnant with you. :) This is one special little boy. TRUSTING GOD EXPECTANTLY with you. Don't look at the waves. Just keep your eyes on Jesus and the miraculous will happen!
ReplyDeleteI love, love, LOVE that you almost look like an apparition in this picture! I tear up e wry time I think about all the hours we've spent praying for Baby M and his bio-mommy. I will continue to pray that God is working in all of this and that His arms are wrapped around her as she speaks with you guys on Wednesday. I pray that you will all be surrounded in peace, joy, excitement and love! And to answer your original question about the shock, I didn't REALLY feel like somebody's actual MOM until Nolen (our second one-born 15months after our 1st) was born 2 1/2 months premature and I was finally flung into "Mother Bear" mode. Until then, I just felt like I was babysitting someone else's very demanding baby and putting on a pretty good " Mommy Show." So I think however you feel, or don't feel about this baby is exactly and perfectly right and natural for you and Matt! Enjoy!
ReplyDeleteFrom what I have been told and acquiring children through a marriage you will actually go through all of the same stages. As being pregnant, giving birth, and after the birth emotions (even blues-you have a lot of friends around you to make this easy). Some might be more extreme than others but it will be the same.
ReplyDeleteI think you should be honest and open with her. The holy spirit will lead and guide you. It sounds like she is an open person as well, based on the questions and steps she has taken to find out about your joy and excitement. She feels excited that she is making someone else happy.
Congratulations!!!! My dad (and his brother, tho separately) were both adopted :D :D :D If it were not for adoption I would not be here today. Adoptive parents are awesome and I'm so excited that you dream is coming true! :) :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats!!!! I am adopted and have always loved hearing stories about it. It is such a beautiful thing and the bond that you will share with that baby is going to be incredible! Babies can grow in hearts the same way they grow in bellies (I grew up being told that).
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